October 04, 2008

Where to Start...

I'm not sure even where to start it's been awhile since i last wrote. Things have been very stressful here at home with Brian not being in school right now we had a meeting a few weeks ago and they gave us our options the first one being that we could cut his days in half and he could go half days in the afternoons but he would have to take summer school and night school probably just to get enough credits to graduate, he is missing like 12 credits it takes 22 to graduate. Option B was he could just drop out and get his GED this is the one they pushed on they didn't push for him to stay in school drop his hours down for awhile and then try and bring them back up no they pushed for him to drop out and get his GED which i knew he wouldn't be able to get your talking about a kid that has been in BD Classrooms his whole life basically except for highschool and even then he had alot of special ed classes his main ones were Life Skills & Consumer Math which is just basic math he learned how to budget and balence a checkbook hopefully anyways. He should be able to shop for grocerys and get good bargins. He can't do Geometry or Algebra i'm not even sure where his math level was in 6th grade he ranged from 1st-3rd grade in things like Math,Reading,and other things. I know his reading level right now is about 8th -10th grade any higher then that and he has trouble comprehending i'm pretty sure he could read a Harry Potter book, probably the newspaper now whether or not he could comprehend what was being said in the newspaper is another thing. So the GED people said this was not really an appropriate route for him they have calls into an associate principal and a special ed teacher to try to brainstorm hopefully what we could do to help brian get an education that he truely does want. What makes it difficult is all the medicines that he takes on most all his medicines one of the side effects is being drowsy having trouble waking up and believe you me sometimes it takes me about 2 hours to wake him up and this is if he hasn't been up in the middle of the night because he can't sleep and he takes medicine to help him sleep lot of good that does him. I need to get him up to Iowa City to have them go over his medicines and give him a good going over and that is another story. The other thing the GED teachers told me was that the Govenor of Iowa put some lady on the Board of Education and if necessary we can talk to her to hopefully get something done for Brian.He is also still on a waiting list for supervised living with cirsi (sp) . Now on to why we can't do the Iowa City thing yet my van took a MAJOR dump on me and the water pump is bad it would cost us $600 to fix it and that is a used one too i guess and we are still having troubles with the brakes about every 2 weeks my back breaks need bled and they don't know what is wrong with that. So the head of the shop basically said that we shouldn't put $600 dollars into the van because it wasn't worth it and that we should probably go shopping for another vehical would be better. He didn't charge us for that appt but had he charged us it probably would have been over $100 again so far i think we have probably put into the van since Aug like $600 possibly or more. We could have bought or paid a down payment for another decent vehical with that money and the money we saved not getting another water pump put in. So hopefully in the next 2 weeks i will have another decent vehical, he said i can still drive the van but we're having to put antifreeze into it everyday or so usually i have to put some in every day and by tomorrow i will probably need more antifreeze which premixed is $8 for the cheapest that we have found so far. To top off a great ending yesterday Brian decided to go out and do some yardwork which is fine, it's great actually but he didn't put on any shoes and socks before he went out and he was chopping some wood to through into our burning pile which eventually will get burned one of these days and he missed and hit his foot i went to check on him and found him on the ground i just about freaked i could barely keep myself calm i got him to the ER and they cleaned his foot and found the cut not to be too severe he had a cut on top of his 3rd toe and a cut between the 3rd and 4th toe he was so lucky he didn't loose his toes or foot. I think my hair is actually whiter now because of him. So needless to say i'm taking the Axe and having my step-dad lock it up over at his house so brian won 't have access to it. I know he is almost 18 yrs old and i know i can't protect him from everything but damn it he scared about 100 lives out of me with that. He told me he was never going to touch it again and when i talked to him about why we wear shoes outside when we do yard work or are outside at all i think he FINALLY understands why i've said wear your shoes,wear your shoes do you have your shoes on i feel like a broken record.. We were in the ER for 3 1/2 hours and he ended up with 5 stitches... thank god that was it he really has a guardian angel looking out for him.
Sam and Zac were so good durning the whole time at the ER.. They gave the boys some grahm crackers and apple juice because they were getting so hungrey it was about 7:30pm by the time we got home.So i'm going to try and force myself to do laundry today and help Brian clean his foot off and re bandage it to keep it clean and i'm going to try to relax and not stress today.. That will be a MAJOR accomplishment for me...
So now how was your guy's week????
take care and may God watch over you and yours!

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